You are allowed to change mama!

Hiya, The last time I sat down to write a blog post, it was 2020—and I was still pregnant with my daughter. Life since then? It’s been beautifully full, wildly challenging, and deeply transformational.

As moms know all too well, becoming a parent doesn’t pause your identity. It presses on it. Expands it. And sometimes? It completely reshapes it.

I’m still a licensed clinical social worker. I still do deep, meaningful work with couples and individuals navigating trauma. But my focus has shifted—because I have shifted. Having a baby in New Jersey during a global pandemic as a Black woman has deeply changed me.

These days, I’m pouring my heart into supporting other mothers—especially Black moms and moms of color—through the emotional rollercoaster of pregnancy, postpartum, in scary times, during the powerful, messy middle of early motherhood.

Why? Because I’ve lived it. And I know the gap between what the world expects of us and the support we actually get. Because that village our mom’s had, is RIP. So I know how hard it is to keep showing up at work, for your kids, your community, yourself—when your body is healing and your mind is swirling.

So if you’re new here: Welcome. If you’ve been here: Welcome back.

This space is evolving, just like I am.

Because yes—we are allowed to change, even while caring for children who are growing too.

Whether you’re here for therapy, coaching, or just a reminder that you’re not alone—I’m so glad you are. Let’s grow together.

Ready to Start Therapy?

If you’re in New Jersey and feel like now might be the right time to begin therapy—or return to it—I offer a free 15-minute consultation to help you take the next step.

📧 Email me directly at therapyfor@livinginthesecondhalf.com

📅 Or call /text 646 859-0125 part of change is realizing help is needed in all aspects of life and I have assistance to answer therapy inquires within 24 hours if you reach out Monday-Friday

Let’s see if we’re the right fit to support you through this season. You deserve care, too.

A Woman's work?

As a society women have more equality in the workplace and much as changed but many women come to see me for therapy because they are very overwhelmed. That overwhelm starts at home and is intense due to the pandemic. Many women still face the intense stress of managing a large majority of the mental, homeschooling, and housework load in their relationships. Many spouses still expect their wives to do the majority of the housework and primary childcare management while holding down a fulltime job.

Many women can become deeply unhappy in their marriages when they look at the weight they manage despite pleading to their partners for help. Add this to other relationships and communication issues couples face, this is one of the reasons women initiate divorce at higher numbers compared to men.

Research shows that couples enter therapy often when it’s too late. Many come to therapy after over years of marriage resentment sets in after being stuck doing it all.  Women then become consumed by unhappiness more than their partners who have fewer stressors and fewer reasons to be deeply unhappy with the marriage. 

Working with a therapist before marriage or in the early years can help stage a healthier foundation to decrease the resentment that builds over time that slowly destroys marriages.