⠀ Parentification is the role reversal where a child is obliged to act as parent to their own parent or sibling. ⠀ ⠀ Parentification occurs in many households, but households where there is a history of alcohol/drug abuse, a disabled parent, or a parent with untreated mental illness there is a high occurrence. ⠀ ⠀ People who grew up taking on adults roles such as caring for a sick family member, being overly responsible for a sibling, and filling emotional voids in their parents life often struggle with establishing healthy boundaries in relationships.⠀ ⠀ ⠀ In relationships it may be difficult for people who grew taking on adult responsibilities to voice their needs. ⠀ ⠀ This is because they are accustomed to taking care of the needs of everyone else.⠀ ⠀ If this resonates with you know that you can break the patterns now.⠀ ⠀ You can start the path of healing and improve the relationship with yourself and your partner.⠀ ⠀ 🛋 🛋 🛋 #parentification #blacktherapist #boundaries #toxicparents #childhoodneglect #motherwound #fatherwound #traumatherapy #therapyhelps #codependencyrecovery #therapyforblackgirls #montclairnj #njtherapist #traumasurvivor #relationshiptips #marriagetherapist #singletips #coupletips #cptsd #cptsdrecovery #healthyrelationships ⠀ ⠀ ⠀
There is a lot of toxicity in our lives we are taking in through social media, and news outlets. ⠀⠀ We use to have a code in America that pregnant women are off limits and to be protected. ⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀ ⠀ America, a country build of the blood and sweat of slaves and immigrants is now a place where people openly question your citizenship.⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ All of this is a lot mentally to carry.⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I will offer you what I am offering myself.⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Anger, rage, and sadness will arise and reside within you for a time.⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Work very hard for these emotions to not stay within you.⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ It’s so easy to forget this when you’re in the midst of dealing with painful emotions.⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling, then ask yourself:⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ “What is this feeling?”⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ “What do I need now in this moment?⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ “How can I get or do that thing I need?⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ “What do I need from my partner?”⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ “How can we, as a couple, turn toward one another to get support instead of turn within or against each other?⠀ ⠀⠀ “Who can I lean on to get support in my circle today?⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You do belong here.⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blacktherapist⠀⠀ #socialworker ⠀⠀ #blacklivesmatter ⠀⠀ #blackmaternalhealth ⠀ #marriagetherapist ⠀ #maternalmentalhealth ⠀ #therapyhelps⠀⠀ #blackwomenmagic ⠀ #blackmothersmatter ⠀⠀ #minoritymentalhealth ⠀⠀ #minoritymentalhealthmonth ⠀ #blackfamiliesmatter ⠀ #mixedfamilies ⠀ #healthyrelationships ⠀ #emotionalwellness⠀ #noroomforracism ⠀ #noroomforhate⠀ #youmatter⠀ #selfcaresunday⠀ #loveyourselfquotes
Going out for dinner for date night is great, but not realistic, especially if your saving coins! ⠀ If your have goals like purchasing a home, or building a business, your pockets may not allow the traditional date night.⠀ ⠀ To save for our home we scaled back on traditional dates of drinks, and three course meals every Friday.⠀ ⠀ Those date nights in NYC was at least $120 every time we went out. ⠀ ⠀ Date night was going to #costco for groceries and was sweet because it was always empty on Friday night! ⠀ ⠀ We did meal planning and would make a meal together to eat and catch up. ⠀ ⠀ So you can still connect with your partner and have money on Monday morning! ⠀ ⠀ #marriagetherapist #relationshipgoals❤️ #gottmanmethod #couplestherapist #blacktherapist #counseling #couplescounseling #marriagetherapy #relationshiptips #divorceproofmarriage #engaged #singletips #coupletips #wifelife💍 #healthyrelationships #datenightideas #healthyrelationships #divorceproofyourmarriage #loveyourwife #loveyourhusband #budgeting #financialgoals #financialgrowth ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
⠀ You may remember having a lot of fun at the beginning of your relationship. ⠀ ⠀ In the honeymoon phase all of your dates was so fun. Remember you couldn’t wait until the next one? ⠀ You may look at your relationship now and find yourself searching to remember the last time you had fun with your partner.⠀ ⠀ This is common. ⠀ ⠀ The demands of taking care of Mom, work that doesn’t end after you leave the office, kids crying and screaming at the same time can make it hard. ⠀ ⠀ When you are in a long term relationship it’s even more important to make the time for fun and to be silly. ⠀ So think about how you and your partner can bring back more fun in your relationship. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Think about the beginning of your relationship. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What things do your remember having so much fun doing? ⠀ Fun for us can be eating bacon on a stick watching the Mets in this #tbt ⠀ ⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #marriagetherapist #relationshipgoals❤️ #gottmanmethod #couplestherapist #montclairnj #couplescounseling #marriagetherapy #relationshiptips #divorceproofmarriage #singletips #coupletips #wifelife💍 #healthyrelationships #datenightideas #healthyrelationships #divorceproofyourmarriage #loveyourwife #loveyourhusband #laughteristhebestmedicine