Children are suppose to be completely dependent upon their parents to create a sense of safety in their world. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ But what happens to children who grow up in households where their parents wasn’t able to create that safe environment?⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Children who grew up without safety often become adults who will often blame themselves for everything going wrong in their life and the lives of others.⠀ ⠀ They become adults who carry overwhelming guilt.⠀ ⠀ They become adults who take on tons of responsibilities at work/home/community/family.⠀ ⠀ They become adults who are perfectionist.⠀⠀ ⠀ Why does this happen?⠀ ⠀⠀ When parents are cannot create a sense of safety and be present for the emotional needs of their children it’s gets super confusing for kids.⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Internally children will always believe they are the cause for the problems within the household. ⠀⠀ ⠀ This is the root of the perfectionist behavior we see in adults. ⠀ ⠀ Because if that child does everything right, always puts away all of their toys, gets great grade, wins all of the awards becoming the perfect child everything will be okay? ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Right?⠀⠀ ⠀ We know this is not true.⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ #traumatherapist #njtherapist #toxicparents #emdrtherapist #perfectionism #shamerecovery #ptsdrecovery #complexptsd #parentingquotes #therapistsofinstagram #wellnessadvocate #healthyrelationships #childneglect #childhoodemotionalneglect #recoveryquotes #blacktherapist #therapyforblackgirls #therapyforblackmen #mentalhealthexpert #minoritymentalhealth #counseling #clinicalsocialwork
For the past three days I have been in training for EMDR Therapy and the road to certification.⠀ ⠀ It was truly a game changer not just for my clients, but for myself. ⠀ ⠀ Honestly I had a healthy amount of skepticism about EMDR going into the training. ⠀ ⠀ Maybe it’s the Brooklyn in me, but I was on the fence even after paying serious money and making the commitment of time for training. ⠀ ⠀ Eye movements, tapping, and light boxes while processing emotional blocks and trauma? But I knew if the Veterans Administration, World Health Organization, and the American Psychological Association approved EMDR as a highly effective treatment for trauma, clearly there is evidence it works.⠀ ⠀ In the training I had hours of practicum where I was paired with another therapist going through the treatment protocol. ⠀ ⠀ I was fortunate to be paired with an EMDR therapist who obtained her training years ago and wanted a refresher. ⠀ ⠀ I am a 100% believer in EMDR for trauma. The event I processed does not hold the same memory in my mind. When I think about the situation, I have a healthier present presentative today. ⠀ ⠀ I am amazed this stuff works, I feel great, in addition to excited about becoming an EMDR Therapist to help my clients! #emdr #emdrtherapy #njtherapist #therapysession #blacktherapist #psychotherapist #iamabeliever #traumatherapist #traumatherapy #healthyrelationships #healingstartswithyou #pastisthepresent #montclairnj #maplewoodnj #essexcountynj #endthestigmaofmentalhealth #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthsupport #toxicrelationships #minoritymentalhealth #couplestherapy #clinicalsocialwork #francineshapiro
Did you know that experiences you faced when you were a child may dramatically impact your life right now? ⠀ ⠀ If this is true there is a great possibility your past is currently hurting your present life and relationships?⠀ ⠀ Your past will keep affecting your present until you become aware of the connection between your past and your future life.⠀ ⠀ The good news is that as an adult you now have control and the ability to fix your life. ⠀ ⠀ The impact of the past on your present life doesn’t need to hurt you anymore.⠀ ⠀ #njtherapist #emdrtherapist #gettingpastyourpast #francineshapiro #youarecapable #healingquotes #healthyrelationships #traumatherapy #psychotherapist #therapyworks #therapistlife #wellnesswarrior #caregiverstress #toxicparents #anxietyquote #blacktherapist #mentalhealth #blackfemaletherapist #minoritymentalhealth #traumatherapist #couplestherapy
⠀ This week I attended a farewell party for a young man I had the honor of providing clinical supervision in my FT job.⠀ ⠀ He is transitioning to a managerial position and I am so very proud of him! ⠀ ⠀ It’s such a privilege and brings me so much joy to help shape new clinicians.⠀ ⠀ The foundation of quality supervision and mentorship I received helped shaped me into the professional I am today.⠀ ⠀ I give back because much was given to me. ⠀ #njtherapist @social_workers_official #clinicalsupervision #helpingotherssucceed #socialworkersrock #dopetherapist #therapistlife #qualifiedsocialworker #masterofsocialwork #lovesocialwork #purposedrivenlife #healthyrelationships #mindfulness #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthsupport #mentorshipmatters #minoritymentalhealth